The blogosphere has been flooded with posts about R U OK? Day which is this Thursday 15th September. That’s a good thing.
I had a post that didn’t start off as an R U OK? post. Then it evolved and I thought it was ‘The One’. Then I read more and more of the other R U OK? posts and started to question whether my post was worthy enough. Yes, that’s right – “worthy enough”.
You see, I don’t suffer from depression. I’ve never contemplated suicide. I don’t have a mental illness. I’ve never had a breakdown. I’ve never had an eating disorder. I haven’t been abused, been homeless, or really down and out. I did not suffer PND (though I was starting to worry I was – that’s a post for another day). I’ve never needed medication nor hospitalisation.
I started to feel I didn’t really have a story to tell, that I didn’t “qualify”. I started to feel that I didn’t have the permission to be someone who legitimately deserved an “R U OK?”
But then it suddenly dawned on me that I shouldn’t need to be in the depths of despair to warrant someone’s concern. No one should need to have fallen that far down a slope before someone shows they care. No one should feel they have to say, “I’m ok” when they’re not; just because they feel unworthy; just because they feel that someone else’s problems are bigger and more significant than theirs.
One of the key aims of R U OK? Day is to “help stop little problems turning into big ones”. A person could just be having a really bad day; crashed the car, got some bad news, come down with a really bad case of the flu, got a parking fine or some other “down-on-your-luck” thing. A simple demonstration of concern, asking, “R U OK?”, could be all that is needed to lift their spirits and help them forward towards a better day.
Anyone can have the human decency to show they care. And, as a human being, you are worthy of receiving the care of another. There is power in the caring words or the kind touch of another person. Knowing that you’ve been heard is a powerful thing. And you never know when demonstrating that concern could really help someone who might be feeling pummelled one too many times and is teetering on the edge. That conversation might save a life.
Thursday the 15th of September 2011 is R U OK? Day. It is a national day of action that aims to encourage Australians to connect with someone they care about and help stop little problems turn into big one’s. All it takes to start a conversation is a simple question – “R U OK?”
If you really aren’t okay and need help right NOW, please contact one of the services HERE. Don’t wait. Don’t put it off. Get help TODAY.
You are worth the care of another human being.
I’d like to applaud and give a shout out to the following bloggers who have gone the extra mile in raising the profile of R U OK? Day. Please read their posts and know that if you are struggling, you are not alone; there is no shame in not being OK.
♦ Gemma from My Big Nutshell
♦ Lisa from Madam Bipolar
The Bloggers Collective
Please click on the link below to find below a collection of the all the works of my blogging friends. We have united today to share our stories to give hope to those feeling isolated and also to inspire participation in R U OK? Day 2011.